What Chinese Girls Need to Do To get Respect

If a Chinese girl actually wanted to get some respect there are some things they should consider changing. Here is a list of what Chinese girls who want to gain some self respect should do:

Stop making your boyfriend carry your purse: You see all those Chinese men out there holding gold sequined purses or something that looks like a hallowed out dog with its legs chopped off, you now know they aren’t all gay.

Stop stalking any boy who rejects you: If a man dumps you for whatever reason, no matter how long you have been together don’t show up at his house pleading with him. Do not sit in your boyfriend’s living room for one whole day waiting for him to come home while his mother wonders what the hell you are doing there. Don’t scream his name from outside his apartment building. Don’t go to his work place and wait for him. Don’t call his friends or show up at their houses or his. Don’t tell everyone he raped you.

Stop only accepting dates from guys who you think have a lot of money: Yes I know you have to marry a rich guy, that’s the way the culture is, that’s what you parents want etc.. etc… That doesn’t mean you can’t date who you want until you get married. You might just find out a little more about yourself if you take the chance on love instead of money. So in the end if you decide you are still going to marry an older, fatter, greasier Chinese guy just because he has money, you can at least know what your life could have been like.

Know about things that go beyond your nails and hair and how much they cost: You and I both know you have more than just that to say, so open your mouth and stop acting like China Barbie.

Don’t demand presents from men and certainly don’t steal from them: Stop trying to get iphones and ipads from men. Although men are stupid for buying you these things. Try to have some self respect and at least appear like you are more than a gold digger. Absolutely don’t steal from men. I have heard stories from several friends where they happened to notice their stash of cash is considerably lighter after a night their “girlfriend” stayed over. One girlfriend admitted she took the money and said she wanted to buy the man a really nice gift and she couldn’t afford it. So stop taking the hand outs and keep your sticky fingers to yourself.

Chinese girl attitudes have been developing over thousands of years and the degradation of women has only slowly been disappearing. The world is ready for a Chinese modern woman, so where is she hiding?

What Chinese Girls are Really Like

Sometimes I feel like I come down too hard on Chinese women. I do have a lot of Chinese girl friends and I feel the need to say the great things about them.

1. They have a strong sense of femininity and idea of what it means to be a woman. Chinese women tend to dress quite feminine. They wear dresses and high heels even to mundane occasions and like to look pretty,. They keep their nails done and hair beautifully styled. They care about their appearance and the way the world sees them. They know the importance of having face.

2. They have great respect for their family. Chinese girls care a lot about what their parents feel and often tailor their decisions about life to what their parents desire. If their family suggests a boyfriend is not a good choice the girls will take that advice under serious consideration. (Completely unlike foreigners.) They respect their family unit and want to make choices in life that will benefit their parents in the future.

3. They give everything for their children. Chinese women give up a lot in life to see that their children have every potential benefit. In the west Chinese mothers are sometimes refered to as ‘Tiger Moms’. The meaning is that they take their roles as mothers very seriously. They compel their children to study hard and excel in their young lives. Enrolling their children in all kinds of different classes from music and dance to extra history and math tutoring.

4. Refined. They know when to let a man speak and continue speaking until it’s absolutely mind-numbingly boring. They have the patience to sit and let a man say ridiculous opinions without finally screaming “You’re fucking stupid shut up!” They will accompany their boyfriends or husbands to internet bars and restaurants filled with his drunken belligerent friends and be the perfect picture of grace.

5. Money savvy. I don’t know how they do it, but I have seen girls who make considerably less than I do walking around with ipads and iphones and purses and shoes that sky-rocket into the thousands of RMB.

I am not a Chinese girl, but I think Chinese girls have a lot of virtues that are under appreciated and these are but a sampling. Chinese women have been pushed into the background by men for as long as China has been Chinese. With times changing they are achieving more and more independence, it’s a slow change but if we don’t all blow up in 2012 I will be interested to see where the woman’s China is going.