Why Chinese Girls Like Foreign Guys

I had a discussion with a group of chinese and foreign friends the other day, the question being why do Chinese girls like foreign guys. Let’s dispense with the preliminaries by saying of course why does anyone like anyone because we are all just people. Now let’s really talk. There is a huge amount of Chinese girls who like foreign guys that is undeniable. So, why do they liked foreign guys?

Money: There is no reason this needs to be a bad thing. I mean it’s higher up on the list than I think it should be but I come from a different culture. Even if the foreign man doesn’t have money in his pocket he’s got great earning potential from just being a foreigner. He will always have work here in China if he wants it and if he wants to go home to his rich country (as the girls see it) he can do that too and so he makes a good choice for a husband. Sensible I suppose.

Appearance: It’s a novelty if you have lived your whole life looking at people with black eyes and hair. So someone with blonde or brown hair and oh my god BLUE eyes seems wildly exotic. This the element that makes us all seem like movie stars. A lot of Chinese girls will have had no experience with foreigners other than the ones they see in the movies and who wouldn’t want to date a movie star. If you said no you’re just lying to yourself my friend.
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harisma: Foreign guys are pretty romantic actually. I never really thought that at home, but in comparison to what I have seen of my friends who have Chinese boyfriends, I think the foreigner who shows up with flowers and actually calls when he says he will is playing his cards exactly right. Realistically foreigners are just different from Chinese so everything we say and express is new to Chinese girls and therefore exciting and intoxicating.

Confidence-Bravado-Machismo: Foreign guys are born with it and if not then they had it forced on them growing up so as not to be subject to a head in the toilet scenario all through school. Point is Foreign guys are confident and masculine which equates to safety and sexual attraction. A confident guy appears to be the alpha male, the leader of the pack, the cream of the crop and the one everyone wants. So when a girl gets a guy like that she holds on for dear life (doubly so in China). Guys who at home would never be considered a trophy seems like big winners here. They say one’s mans garbage is another’s treasure. Case and point.

Green Card-Opportunity: Yes of course. Being with a foreign guy opens a lot of doors some of them to planes that can carry you to another country! It’s not a great reason, it’s pretty sleazy really to be with a guy for this reason, but at least no one can say that girl doesn’t have ambition!

Being Cool-Face: Dating a foreigner, a rarity, a novelty; having something other people don’t, hey that makes you look pretty cool. Everyone who sees you will wonder what makes her so special? I am sure it makes a girl feel pretty good. Until it turns to paranoia and the girls start to think their foreign man is cheating every time he’s out of sight for single second.

Sex: While I find this one a bit unlikely I was forced to admit that it is indeed a possibility. I don’t kiss and tell but I will say Chinese guys are no legends in bed, but neither are foreigners (yep I said it.) It’s all hit and miss when it comes to sex. Despite this my male friends seem to think every Chinese girl they sleep with is going wild for them because the sex is that damn good. Verdict: Yeah sometimes pigs fly so what can I say?

There are lots of reasons why any two people are together, but when it comes to Chinese girl-foreign guy relationships, I think you got your answers right there. Don’t thank me, it’s for the greater good.

What Chinese Girls are Really Like

Sometimes I feel like I come down too hard on Chinese women. I do have a lot of Chinese girl friends and I feel the need to say the great things about them.

1. They have a strong sense of femininity and idea of what it means to be a woman. Chinese women tend to dress quite feminine. They wear dresses and high heels even to mundane occasions and like to look pretty,. They keep their nails done and hair beautifully styled. They care about their appearance and the way the world sees them. They know the importance of having face.

2. They have great respect for their family. Chinese girls care a lot about what their parents feel and often tailor their decisions about life to what their parents desire. If their family suggests a boyfriend is not a good choice the girls will take that advice under serious consideration. (Completely unlike foreigners.) They respect their family unit and want to make choices in life that will benefit their parents in the future.

3. They give everything for their children. Chinese women give up a lot in life to see that their children have every potential benefit. In the west Chinese mothers are sometimes refered to as ‘Tiger Moms’. The meaning is that they take their roles as mothers very seriously. They compel their children to study hard and excel in their young lives. Enrolling their children in all kinds of different classes from music and dance to extra history and math tutoring.

4. Refined. They know when to let a man speak and continue speaking until it’s absolutely mind-numbingly boring. They have the patience to sit and let a man say ridiculous opinions without finally screaming “You’re fucking stupid shut up!” They will accompany their boyfriends or husbands to internet bars and restaurants filled with his drunken belligerent friends and be the perfect picture of grace.

5. Money savvy. I don’t know how they do it, but I have seen girls who make considerably less than I do walking around with ipads and iphones and purses and shoes that sky-rocket into the thousands of RMB.

I am not a Chinese girl, but I think Chinese girls have a lot of virtues that are under appreciated and these are but a sampling. Chinese women have been pushed into the background by men for as long as China has been Chinese. With times changing they are achieving more and more independence, it’s a slow change but if we don’t all blow up in 2012 I will be interested to see where the woman’s China is going.

What Foreign Men are Really like....

I’m talking westerners when I say foreign men. I am having a hard time, but I will muddle my way through this one. Just kidding, of course there must be something good about them. Ha Ha

1. They stand on their own two feet. A foreign man makes a decision and plans to stand by it no matter what his friends or family say. Maybe it’s to his detriment sometimes, but he’s willing to take that chance and live with the outcome. Foreign men are truly creatures that make mistakes and sometimes learn from them.

2. They have a strong sexual identity. Foreign men like sex and don’t feel the need to hide it. They like girls who like sex and don’t necessarily think that makes the girl a slut. They pride themselves on their sexual prowess and can be extremely disappointed or offended if their partner is not pleased.

3. They respect and enjoy independent women. Foreign men can see girls as friends not only lovers. They respect a woman’s opinion as much as any persons. They can chat and go to movies and do all the things with women that they do with their male friends and there is no chance of a relationship or sex floating around in their minds.

4. They love to laugh. Foreign guys love a sense of humor in both their friends and lovers. A good joke goes a long way with a foreign man and they love to kid around with each other. Get a group of grown men together and it can turn into a comedy show, maybe not a good one, but everyone’s happy.

5. They have machismo. I am not saying they’re all he-man, but they have a real sense of masculinity in their appearance and personality. They like to be seen as big and strong even if their scrawny and nerdy. For the ones who don’t have a manly body they use their intelligence or social skills to dominate.

So, foreign men do have good things about them and they aren’t all listed here, but I think these attributes make them pretty desirable.