What Chinese Girls are Really Like

Sometimes I feel like I come down too hard on Chinese women. I do have a lot of Chinese girl friends and I feel the need to say the great things about them.

1. They have a strong sense of femininity and idea of what it means to be a woman. Chinese women tend to dress quite feminine. They wear dresses and high heels even to mundane occasions and like to look pretty,. They keep their nails done and hair beautifully styled. They care about their appearance and the way the world sees them. They know the importance of having face.

2. They have great respect for their family. Chinese girls care a lot about what their parents feel and often tailor their decisions about life to what their parents desire. If their family suggests a boyfriend is not a good choice the girls will take that advice under serious consideration. (Completely unlike foreigners.) They respect their family unit and want to make choices in life that will benefit their parents in the future.

3. They give everything for their children. Chinese women give up a lot in life to see that their children have every potential benefit. In the west Chinese mothers are sometimes refered to as ‘Tiger Moms’. The meaning is that they take their roles as mothers very seriously. They compel their children to study hard and excel in their young lives. Enrolling their children in all kinds of different classes from music and dance to extra history and math tutoring.

4. Refined. They know when to let a man speak and continue speaking until it’s absolutely mind-numbingly boring. They have the patience to sit and let a man say ridiculous opinions without finally screaming “You’re fucking stupid shut up!” They will accompany their boyfriends or husbands to internet bars and restaurants filled with his drunken belligerent friends and be the perfect picture of grace.

5. Money savvy. I don’t know how they do it, but I have seen girls who make considerably less than I do walking around with ipads and iphones and purses and shoes that sky-rocket into the thousands of RMB.

I am not a Chinese girl, but I think Chinese girls have a lot of virtues that are under appreciated and these are but a sampling. Chinese women have been pushed into the background by men for as long as China has been Chinese. With times changing they are achieving more and more independence, it’s a slow change but if we don’t all blow up in 2012 I will be interested to see where the woman’s China is going.

What Chinese Men are Really Like

What’s so great about Chinese men? I admit it can be hard to fathom at times, but here are 5 truly great things about Chinese Men.

1. They have a sense of style. Not just the ones who look gay, but all Chinese men seem to have a good sense of style. I don’t see the baggy jeans all torn up around the bottom from dragging on the ground that I see at home. Chinese men do seem to keep their shoes immaculately clean and even shiny in some cases. They wear shirts that fit properly and aren’t old, faded, or deodorant stained under the arms. They freely wear all kinds of hats, ties, suit jackets and even have those man bags (suspiciously feminine but doesn’t mean you’re gay.) They keep up their hair styles and trim their beards for the precious few that can grow them.

2.They Pay. I don’t mean prostitutes (That’s a whole other story). They don’t mind paying for dinner, they don’t grumble over who owes what at dinner with friends and even fight to pay the bill. They buy their parents and girlfriends gifts even when it’s not a special occasion.

3. They love their families. Chinese men go out of their way to show their families the love. They appreciate and listen to family advice and study and work harder to make their families proud.

4. They love a good time. I yet again am not talking about prostitutes. Chinese men love to drink and be around friends right up until they start puking on the street or peeing in restaurants or vice versa. They yell and argue and even physically fight and it all comes out with no hard feeling (most of the time.)

5. They are marriage minded. Their goal is marriage and they have no qualms about it. When they find an acceptable girl they don’t have cold feet. They may have girlfriends who they have no plans on marrying when they are young, but eventually they will go looking for someone who is marriage appropriate. They aren’t afraid of commitment.